My husband threw my six year old son with a patio chair. Have you ever prayed for someone to die? In that instant I was sure I'd rather help my kids get over the death of their father than have them live with a monster who would break them down emotionally. No, I can't try to understand that he's a product of his up bringing.  Because so am I and I know that there is no reason under the sun for throwing a patio chair at a six year old.